Monday, October 6, 2008

of being single and young(er).

is it a sin being a single? did i bring any harm to anyone just because i have not settled down? why do i get treated badly just because i'm not married? i've had enough of these sort of double standards already. since working, approximately 4 years ago, being single is like a death sentence to me (and a few friends). i have to attend courses that those who are married did not want to go, simply because they had problems with 'anak²'. and i have to go to meetings because those same people can't make it due to family problem and i have nothing to think about at home. my god!!!! don't us, single people, have our own problems too? it may not be about children or husband or in-laws, but a problem is a problem no matter how you put it. no one is to judge how great or simple a problem is if you're not the one facing it.

me being single is not a choice. this is what we i like to call fate. if i can just pick anyone to be wed, i would have done it years ago! who does not want to be married and start a family? everybody does. it's just that my 'time' is yet to arrive. and for that, i have to be 'punished' by doing stuff that mostly, are supposed to be done together as colleagues. i am trying my best to settle down, to have my own child(ren) et cetera. maybe i should try harder. but in the mean time, cant' they just give me a break, or better yet, treat me equally?

and is it my fault being born late? and start working when i'm only in my early 20s? me being young [if not the youngest..], is that a ticket for anyone not to show some respect to me? in this day and age, i believe in equality. in order to be respected by everyone, you have to respect others too. i have done my part, the best that i can [i.e respecting my superiors], but why can't they show me some respect too? when they give orders, can't they talk in a softer tone? and show some nice facial expression once in a while.. is that so hard to do? a simple and honest gesture means a lot to anyone.

i know we can't stay young forever. i am already 25 (ouch!!), and that's not young anymore. but being the junior in my workplace, plus a single one too, i don't think i get respected for being me. i maybe younger, but i work like everyone too. so don't i deserve a little bit of respect? can't older people respect their juniors?

these are some of the reasons why i really want to fly away from my workplace. even though it's the best compared to my friends', but i'm afraid i can't handle this kind of pressure anymore. i am, intentionally or not, being DISCRIMINATED just because i am (still) single and young(er).

or, to ease my pain, shall i just find a husband right away?
rotflol.

14 comments:

  1. hey~~

    been through the same thing..just becoz i'm not married (yet), so i'm the one yg kena stayback for work etc..like i dont have a life?!?!

    lets stick together and fight anasir2 ini!! muahahah!!

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  2. you are one of the few friends i was referring to! hehehehhe..
    tak aci bukannnnnnn???!!

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  3. selamat hari raya Fizzy....:-)

    read this posting....and I think I understand how u feel.
    am with u and the gang in fighting 'anasir anasir prejudis' ini! hehehe

    bila nak mai dubai....choose it as a location to get away!

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  4. ingat orang single takde life ke.. haih!!!

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  5. kata emiliano zapata...
    Es mejor morir de pie que vivir de rodillas.

    err... bukang suruh gi tang pok deme tu... tapi.... kene k'kabo la kalu dok suke, kalu dok k'kenang...
    jangang duk bior oghang wak kite saje...

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  6. Ah, touchy feely we are these days, eh? *winks*

    I have encountered many people who complain about being discriminated. Probably I'd be one of those who can say best about it. I have been the minority, race and gender wise, in the workforce since I started working. It doesnt make a difference whether it was here or back in KL. Sama jer.

    But I believe that if one wants to make a difference, then he /she should go for it. So if that person keeps giving excuses, it is his/her loss. When we are given the opportunity, we should try our best to explore.

    ala, simple things like doing exam. My single and available male colleagues couldnt even pass their exam. I on the hand, tgh breastfeed baby lagi, on top of working 60-70 hrs a week, still aced my exam.

    So my dear, everyone LOVES giving excuses! Single ker, kawin ker, anak ke, suicidal ke etc. *rotfl*

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  7. @abe id..
    terima kasih kerana memahami..
    hehehehehehehe...
    was a lil bit emotional when i posted it yesterday.
    today it gets worse, but decided not to think about it.

    escapade to dubai???
    alahai... really want to!
    economically tak mampu, though..
    hehehehehhe.. pulau redang yang sejengkal ni pun fizzy blom sampai lagi.
    lol

    but if i EVER set my foot there, insyaAllah, i'll susahkan u and kak LiL.. hehe.
    take care!

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  8. @achik..

    kan? kan?
    huhuhuuhuhuu..
    hanya jauhari mengenal manikam.
    hanya johari mengenal maniam..
    dan hanya org single memahami perasaan ku.
    lol.

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  9. @pa'chik..
    [bakpe cakak ganung, gok? dok beghehi lah.. :p]

    fizzy akan tahan sampai tahun ni..
    sekolah dah tak berapa lama lagi dah.
    next year, takde lagi dah.
    fizzy akan tegas, and won't let them pijak² kepala.
    that's a promise to myself.

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  10. my dearest miss b,

    yeah, was a lil bit down when i wrote this yesterday. perhaps because a lot of stuff happened at the same time, i suffocated. hence the rather emotional entry from yours truly.

    i tried my best to do what i was told to do. maybe because the respect that i have for the elderly a.k.a my superiors made me just shut my mouth and follow their orders. in a way, i have to admit i learned a lot. but the feeling of being used sometimes hit me. that's why i was feeling sad+angry to the maximum yesterday.

    ahhhh.. i wish i could take a break like you and go some place where people don't know me.. take a walk to beautiful gardens, beaches etc.. sigh~

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  11. fizzy, jom plan redang! jadual cuti sekolah 2009 dah keluar..

    cuti sekolah bukan hak mutlak org2 yang sudah ada anak yang bersekolah untuk mengambil cuti!

    let's fight the anasir!! =P

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  12. me want to join the fight against the anasir2 too!!!!

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  13. and why do I think we're in the same boat.... btw, Assalamualaikum

    p/s: salah comment on previous entry

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